I just wanted to leave my condolences and a comforting scripture. John 5:28 reads- 'Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out." This speaks of a resurrection of our dead loved ones. I know you don't know me but you and the family will be in my prayers.
The sufferring and death we see today is not part of God's purpose for mankind. When you get a chance visit http://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/our-suffering/. This site gave comforting scriptures to me when I was faced with difficult times.